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感情何须金钱“量”?

2017-09-30 10:52  来源:客家新闻网

感情何须金钱“量”?

□刘立青

  国庆将至,职场人士终于迎来了一个小长假。按理说,这本是一件令人期待的事情,但是笔者的一位朋友却高兴不起来。原来,总共8天的假期,他就收到了5位好朋友的婚礼请柬,不仅原本的出行计划被打乱,还要随出去一大笔“份子钱”。

  好朋友结婚,随个份子钱表达一下心意本无可厚非。但是现在,不管是随份子钱的、还是收份子钱的,都出现了一种“畸形”的观念:感情是用金钱来衡量的。份子钱送的多,证明我们情比金坚;送的少,证明你看不起我,没把我当朋友;不送,对不起,我没你这个朋友。于是,有温度的人情,也慢慢异化成了冰冷的“人情债”。

  放下杂念,让份子钱的内涵变“单纯”。作为随礼方,不要盲目攀比,不能因为别人随的多,自己就要比他随的更多。尤其是在国庆这样婚礼扎堆的假期里,不量力而行,那得到“面子”的同时也会产生不少压力。而作为收礼方,也不应该通过份子钱的多少来判断朋友之间的感情。中国有句古话叫“礼轻情意重”,我们看重的应该是情谊,而不是“礼”。

  解放思想,减轻年轻人结婚的压力。多少年轻人抱怨结不起婚,为什么?正是因为结婚的开销太大了。所以很多人结婚都希望通过份子钱稍缓经济压力,在这样的思想下,份子钱给得少自然会影响双方的感情。只有解放思想,突破传统婚礼习俗的禁锢,减轻当代年轻人结婚的压力,才能真正有效破除“感情金钱论”。

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